By Dr. Gail Cloud
Every one of us has a healing journey. No one is perfect, and no one is a perfect mother or father. Every one of us has a mother and a father regardless of gender, race, ethnicity, and those of us who have been adopted or feel disenfranchised, or hate our parents, or who don’t know them, or who lost them, and so on.
Our job as we grow into adulthood is to do our own healing work. This can mean we have to learn how to mother or father ourselves. I find myself saying to some people, “you have been raised by wolves” because there is so much they didn’t receive from their caretakers. If we want to live fulfilling lives with meaning, it is on us to learn to take care of us, to learn what we didn’t, and to find and heal our missing pieces, or lost pieces, our physical/mental/spiritual pains, to the best of our abilities.
We all live in pain of some sort, be it physical injuries or illness, or inherited neurological issues, or inherited issues of all kinds. Most of us, myself included at times, get angry at or resentful of our injuries and pains; especially those with chronic issues including mental health issues of depression, mania, and so on. Many folks give into the pain and think it will always be this way and kind of give up learning more, being curious. Many folks stay very busy, so they don’t have to feel their pains and feelings, always on the move. Some of us eat too much harmful food, drink too much, or party too much, stream too much, scroll too much. All of those coping mechanisms are too easy to do. What is challenging is to face our pains and difficulties and to feel. To do so, we need to begin with accepting our body parts, our bodies in general, our pains and fears and anxieties. This is the way it is right now. What can I learn from them? What might they be teaching me or holding for me or protecting me from? Can I integrate them into my consciousness so I can become more whole?
No one likes the feeling of being ignored or being treated without respect or with resentment. This includes us doing those things to ourselves. We respond to being seen, being heard, being validated. So do our feelings and our pains.
If you would like some help with moving forward and healing your pains and issues, feel free to reach out and set up a session. I am adding a new tool to my tool box, fascia maneuvers, so you too can learn to heal yourself instead of relying on others. Take a look at my website and set up a session. www.bodypresencing.com. And call me or email me: gail@bodypresencing.com, 314-995-9755.
Gail Cloud, D.C.
Healing the Root of the Matter
BodyPresencing; be-ing through presence